A testament to love ten years of marriage.

or, Celebrating three thousand, six hundred and fifty three days of marriage

I’ve been meaning to write this for some time now – I even had aspirations of posting this the actual day of the anniversary, but like so many things (grr), I get side-tracked into deep rat holes.

Friday February 22nd, we had a party to commemorate our ten years of being married. We had the upstairs at Patty Bolands pretty much to ourselves for a good portion of the evening, which was wonderful – the serving & kitchen staff, and management really worked hard to make the event go smoothly for us, and it was (and still is) deeply appreciated. Everyone was blown away by the food – Christoph and crew did a fantabulous job on that front.

Our good friend Sara graciously agreed to organize the music for after dinner and the “first dance” (Kiss Me by Sixpence None The Richer).

We were very pleased at how many of our friends came out to celebrate our first ten years with us. Ten years seems like a long time, but I can assure you, it flew by. Michelle Hrynyk explained to the group why we were all there, and then Tracey and I exchanged words.

I know Tracey said something to me and I said something to her – I remember my mouth moving and eyes watering, heart pounding in my chest… the general gist of which was how Tracey helped me become who I am today, and how I can not imagine my life without her in it.

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve heard repeatedly from many people that making it to ten years in “this day and age” is a serious accomplishment. An informal survey of my memory shows only a handful of couples in our age group are have been together this long, so it could be true.

Surviving marriage

I firmly believe there are two keys to a successful marriage. The first one is a piece of advice I heard when I was quite young, but it stuck; marry your best friend.

The second is communication. Talk about everything. If for some reason I’m unhappy, I’ll tell her (the inverse is always true)- I won’t let it fester – festering leads to resentment which leads to hate which leads to me channelling Yoda, so I’ll stop that (for now – Yoda knew what he was talking about).

You can check out all the photos over on Tracey’s Flickr, or watch the video over on YouTube or video.ca.

The dinner playlist:

Some of the tunes here are from our wedding reception – which we still have.. on cassette tape.

  • How Can I Keep from Singing? by Enya
  • Africa by Toto
  • The Lady In Red by Chris de Burgh
  • The Motion Of Stars by Vangelis
  • Chrysalis (4) by Christopher Franke
  • Dance Of The Sugar Plum Fairy by Various Artists
  • Even In The Quietest Moments by Supertramp
  • On Your Shore by Enya
  • Where Peaceful Waters Flow by Chris de Burgh
  • Watermark by Enya
  • The Littlest Birds by The Be Good Tanyas
  • Prophecy Theme by Brian Eno
  • Good Morning Kaia by BT
  • Glove Puppet (Vocal Version) by Banco De Gaia
  • Aganju by Bebel Gilberto
  • Like Someone In Love by Bj